Disaster in defeat or opportunity?

I was listening to Tony Robbins on the way to work this morning and he really struck a chord with me!

I am a massive fan of Tony Robbins and really believe the things that he teaches. This morning he was talking about looking for the opportunity in defeat......he even went as far to say that when we are facing defeat, if we look hard enough, we can find our destiny.......

The example that he uses is from the film Field of Dreams with Kevin Costner. In part of the film Kevin Costner is talking to the town doctor, who is explaning to Kevin about how he played one season of Major League Baseball until he was dropped after playing in only one game.......Kevin looked at him and said that he must have been devastated and distraught to not have fulfilled his life long dream of batting in Major League Baseball.

The doctor turns to Kevin and says that that it isn't devastating and neither has it caused him to be distraught because he would have never have become a doctor if he hadn't been dropped.....he would never have saved peoples lives, delivered babies and cured people.......so in the face of adversity and defeat the Doctor found his true calling.......he fulfilled his destiny....

Now, although this is a hollywood film and you would be forgiven for being a bit sceptical, there is massive truth in the fact that when we face huge adversity in our lives, those people who believe that they will be bigger, faster, stronger, happier and wiser will ALWAYS end up better off and moving on....you know why.....its not difficult....because they look for it......

There are people that, when faced with adversity, believe that they will be worse off, become a lesser person, be lonely, be weak.......guess what.....will become all of those things.......because they look for it.

In all but one of the relationships I have had, I have always believed that I would be lonely, weaker, a lesser person than i could be.......and guess what I was!!!! Until the final relationship that ended...where I decided unequivocally that I would faster, stronger, better and more amazing then I had ever been....and guess what I am...I am now in an amazing relationship and have never been this happy......all because I chose to be........

Defeat simply presents you with lots more opportunities to succeed and maybe even to fulfil your destiny......so look for the positives.....it can only bring you amazing things.......