"Remember, success is not measured by heights attained but by obstacles overcome. We're going to pass through many obstacles in our lives: good days, bad days. But the successful person will overcome those obstacles and constantly move forward."
Bruce Jenner
Olympian, Speaker and Entrepreneur
Wednesday, 25 March 2009
Saturday, 21 March 2009
Talking to yourself isn't a sign of madness......
.....its talking negatively to yourself, thats where the mad part comes in!!!
We all talk to ourselves in some way shape or form at some time and the content of what we say is massively important.
Have you ever had a situation where you have done something or said something and then have proceeded to verbally berate yourself because you didn't get the outcome that you wanted? This is an important and vulnerable time in which you can either positively learn from the experience or negatively reinforce the mistake that you have made which could prevent you from growing, cause you to continue to make the mistake or, even worse, never attempt to achieve the result you want in the same situation again.
It is crucial to look for the positives in the situation whatever the result is and immediately ensure that your language is positively reinforcing the lessons you can learn. So ask yourself what you could have done better? What are you going to do better next time? How are you going to positively reinforce the next time?
Remember the following equation:
E + R = 0
Experience + Response-Ability = Outcome
From positive reinforcement you can learn from your experience and next time you are in the same situation you can decide on what your Outcome needs to be, by drawing on your experience and knowing that you have the abilty to deal with any response.....perfect......
Have a cracking weekend.
We all talk to ourselves in some way shape or form at some time and the content of what we say is massively important.
Have you ever had a situation where you have done something or said something and then have proceeded to verbally berate yourself because you didn't get the outcome that you wanted? This is an important and vulnerable time in which you can either positively learn from the experience or negatively reinforce the mistake that you have made which could prevent you from growing, cause you to continue to make the mistake or, even worse, never attempt to achieve the result you want in the same situation again.
It is crucial to look for the positives in the situation whatever the result is and immediately ensure that your language is positively reinforcing the lessons you can learn. So ask yourself what you could have done better? What are you going to do better next time? How are you going to positively reinforce the next time?
Remember the following equation:
E + R = 0
Experience + Response-Ability = Outcome
From positive reinforcement you can learn from your experience and next time you are in the same situation you can decide on what your Outcome needs to be, by drawing on your experience and knowing that you have the abilty to deal with any response.....perfect......
Have a cracking weekend.
Friday, 20 March 2009
A limerick....
HAPPINESS
OK, another limerick…
It’s hard to find joy, some say
In a world full of decay.
The pursuit of happiness
Amid all the crappiness
Seems like trying to swim through clay
…so it’s time to start molding that clay, shaping it, forming it.
Before you know it, you have a swimming pool you can fill with warm, tropical water. The world is not decaying as long as you are forming it.
OK, another limerick…
It’s hard to find joy, some say
In a world full of decay.
The pursuit of happiness
Amid all the crappiness
Seems like trying to swim through clay
…so it’s time to start molding that clay, shaping it, forming it.
Before you know it, you have a swimming pool you can fill with warm, tropical water. The world is not decaying as long as you are forming it.
Quote of the day.......
"The great successful men of the world have used their imaginations.....they think ahead and create their mental picture, and the go to work materialising that picture in all its details, filling in here, adding a little there, altering this bit, but steadily building, steadily building" - Robert Collier
Thursday, 19 March 2009
What are you putting........
Time to sharpen the decision making skills again!!!
What are you putting off in your life that you KNOW must be done for you to feel like you are moving on? What are the clear decisions you are not taking and what are the reasons for this?
It could be anything - business, family, friends, health, wealth.........
Believe me the moment you clean out your closet of decision making you will have masses of empty space to put other useful things in there.....
Is there something that you are putting off because you are scared of what will happen.......believe me the result won't be as bad as you think it will be!!
Are you putting something off because you feel you don't know how to say or do it.....believe me when you DECIDE to do it, they way will materialise for you......
Or is it simply because you don't know whether its the right thing to do......well there's only one way to find out.......do it......
It is our moments of decision that our destiny is shaped and once you make the change your life will change for the better, even if the result of the action you take isn't a positive experience for you, it still means that you have flexed those decision making muscles and you now know that you can do it!!!
So make list of the the things you have been putting off and start ticking them off one by one.....you will have an amazing release of energy and feel like the weight has been lifted off your shoulders....
What are you putting off in your life that you KNOW must be done for you to feel like you are moving on? What are the clear decisions you are not taking and what are the reasons for this?
It could be anything - business, family, friends, health, wealth.........
Believe me the moment you clean out your closet of decision making you will have masses of empty space to put other useful things in there.....
Is there something that you are putting off because you are scared of what will happen.......believe me the result won't be as bad as you think it will be!!
Are you putting something off because you feel you don't know how to say or do it.....believe me when you DECIDE to do it, they way will materialise for you......
Or is it simply because you don't know whether its the right thing to do......well there's only one way to find out.......do it......
It is our moments of decision that our destiny is shaped and once you make the change your life will change for the better, even if the result of the action you take isn't a positive experience for you, it still means that you have flexed those decision making muscles and you now know that you can do it!!!
So make list of the the things you have been putting off and start ticking them off one by one.....you will have an amazing release of energy and feel like the weight has been lifted off your shoulders....
Friday, 13 March 2009
Quote of the day.........
The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all
possible worlds; and the pessimist fears this is true.
--James Branch Cabell
possible worlds; and the pessimist fears this is true.
--James Branch Cabell
Wednesday, 11 March 2009
Spoilt for choice........
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way" - Viktor Frankel
In life professional performers believe they have the power and the right to choose their own destiny and future. Average people in life let their circumstances effect them and believe they have no choice....the classic one that I am sure can be heard around the world on a Monday morning is......."I hate going to work, my job is so boring and I am so tired" but the people who are "victims" of this are those that don't make the conscious choice to change their job or if they don't want to do that change their attitude towards it!!
Believe or not we are not at the mercy of what the gods desire us to do, you are not at the beck and call of your boss, you are not ruled by anyone apart from your own choices and decisions.
Believe me, when you start to make conscious choices in your life, that are motivated by your desire to be in control, your life will immediately become better.
When making your choices you need to do it from a position of objective reality......ask yourself the question "Am I in control of this choice?", "Does this choice serve my end goal?"
Just remember life in this universe is very much like shopping.....you have an amazing amount of choice and when you are out on the universal high street you are the master of your choices......now all you have to decide is whether or not you want the 5 bedroomed house with the swimming pool or do you want the Ferrari or both!!!
In life professional performers believe they have the power and the right to choose their own destiny and future. Average people in life let their circumstances effect them and believe they have no choice....the classic one that I am sure can be heard around the world on a Monday morning is......."I hate going to work, my job is so boring and I am so tired" but the people who are "victims" of this are those that don't make the conscious choice to change their job or if they don't want to do that change their attitude towards it!!
Believe or not we are not at the mercy of what the gods desire us to do, you are not at the beck and call of your boss, you are not ruled by anyone apart from your own choices and decisions.
Believe me, when you start to make conscious choices in your life, that are motivated by your desire to be in control, your life will immediately become better.
When making your choices you need to do it from a position of objective reality......ask yourself the question "Am I in control of this choice?", "Does this choice serve my end goal?"
Just remember life in this universe is very much like shopping.....you have an amazing amount of choice and when you are out on the universal high street you are the master of your choices......now all you have to decide is whether or not you want the 5 bedroomed house with the swimming pool or do you want the Ferrari or both!!!
Monday, 9 March 2009
Quote of the day.......
Whatever failures I have known, whatever errors I have committed, whatever follies I have witnessed in private and public life have been the consequence of action without thought."
Bernard M. Baruch
1870-1965, American Financier
Bernard M. Baruch
1870-1965, American Financier
Friday, 6 March 2009
Quote of the day.......
“Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever.” - Lance Armstrong
The Top 10 of successful people.......
1. Have boundless energy
Charismatic people keep themselves in great shape and exude exceptional energy when entering a room.
2. Have goals
Charismatic people have goals. They have a clear vision and specific goals to achieve that vision. They plan their work and work their plan.
They focus on what they want to achieve. They work every day to make their goals a reality.
3. Make it all about them
Charismatic people make the experience all about those they are interacting with. By showing an active interest in others, the charismatic individual can generate a tremendous amount of goodwill.
4. Develop self-confidence
Charismatic people have an intense belief in themselves. They have an unshakeable belief in their ability to rise above circumstances. They let their dreams give them the power to face fear and uncertainty.
5. Develop crisp, compelling communication
The power to listen, anticipate and articulate are the gifts of charismatic people. They tend to keep communications short, sharp and sweet, and paint powerful pictures…they set the scene, chart the territory and highlight the action needed.
6.Become knowledgeable
Many charismatic people are avid readers. This enables them to stimulate the intellect of others and to start a good conversation and keep it going.
7. Be proactive
Charismatic people take the lead. They assume direct responsibility for their own life and actions.
8. Be positive
Charismatic people are positive in outlook and co-operative. They tend to provide solutions and suggestions rather than objections or negativity.
9. Have a strong rapport
Part of that riveting quality of a charismatic person comes from the relationship that they create with their audience. Part of that relationship is created by what they say. However, the vast majority of it is created with their eyes, motions and emotions.
10. Have fun
Charismatic people are fun to be around. Their enthusiasm for projects is contagious and rubs off on everyone.
Charismatic people keep themselves in great shape and exude exceptional energy when entering a room.
2. Have goals
Charismatic people have goals. They have a clear vision and specific goals to achieve that vision. They plan their work and work their plan.
They focus on what they want to achieve. They work every day to make their goals a reality.
3. Make it all about them
Charismatic people make the experience all about those they are interacting with. By showing an active interest in others, the charismatic individual can generate a tremendous amount of goodwill.
4. Develop self-confidence
Charismatic people have an intense belief in themselves. They have an unshakeable belief in their ability to rise above circumstances. They let their dreams give them the power to face fear and uncertainty.
5. Develop crisp, compelling communication
The power to listen, anticipate and articulate are the gifts of charismatic people. They tend to keep communications short, sharp and sweet, and paint powerful pictures…they set the scene, chart the territory and highlight the action needed.
6.Become knowledgeable
Many charismatic people are avid readers. This enables them to stimulate the intellect of others and to start a good conversation and keep it going.
7. Be proactive
Charismatic people take the lead. They assume direct responsibility for their own life and actions.
8. Be positive
Charismatic people are positive in outlook and co-operative. They tend to provide solutions and suggestions rather than objections or negativity.
9. Have a strong rapport
Part of that riveting quality of a charismatic person comes from the relationship that they create with their audience. Part of that relationship is created by what they say. However, the vast majority of it is created with their eyes, motions and emotions.
10. Have fun
Charismatic people are fun to be around. Their enthusiasm for projects is contagious and rubs off on everyone.
212
What happens at 212?........no its not the time at which the blood rushes to your stomach after lunch that makes you feel lethargic for the afternoon!!!!
Its actually the point at which water boils in farenheit. But why is this important to you and me? It is important because the different between hot water and boling water....which produces steam.....which can power engines.....is one degree!!!!
One more degree in energy is the tipping point to change.....Now apply this to your life and imagine that you are one degree away from making an impact on your goals.....this is the point that most people seem to give up because it gets really hard. The line between success and failure is so fine that people rarely know that they are on it and with a little more patience and perseverance they would be where they wanted to be.......
The world class performers and thinkers know that a degree change in thinking, effort and action can result in massive achievements......
What are you going to do to get your water boiling today?
Its actually the point at which water boils in farenheit. But why is this important to you and me? It is important because the different between hot water and boling water....which produces steam.....which can power engines.....is one degree!!!!
One more degree in energy is the tipping point to change.....Now apply this to your life and imagine that you are one degree away from making an impact on your goals.....this is the point that most people seem to give up because it gets really hard. The line between success and failure is so fine that people rarely know that they are on it and with a little more patience and perseverance they would be where they wanted to be.......
The world class performers and thinkers know that a degree change in thinking, effort and action can result in massive achievements......
What are you going to do to get your water boiling today?
Thursday, 5 March 2009
Repition is the mother of habit
Did you know that there is a simple process to follow in every walk of life....whether it be putting up flat pack furniture, driving a car or changing those limiting beliefs that have prevented you from achieving the amazing life that you deserve?
Well let me give you the clear and simple 6 step process that you need to follow in order to achieve your goals........This process is brought to you by the king of motivation....Anthony Robbins.....if none of you have heard of him then look him up on google and start reading and listening to some of his books......he is amazing. His simple 6 step process is this:
Step 1: Decide on what you really want and what is preventing you from having it now
Step 2: Get Leverage – Associate massive pain to not changing your limiting belief/habit that is preventing you from having what you want. Create massive pleasure to taking the action needed to change
Step 3: Interrupt the limiting pattern/habit – Remember ‘If you do what you’ve always done you will get what you’ve always got’
Step 4: Create a new empowering belief/habit that moves you towards your goal
Step 5: Condition the new pattern until its consistent – Schedule in time for reinforcement sessions e.g. Affirmations, Mantras and Meditation in the morning
Step 6: Test it – Imagine yourself doing the old limiting habit/belief and then think about what you have replaced that with. Rehearse in your mind what you would do i.e instead of laying in bed, get up and go to the gym.
Believe me that if you stick to this process with unwavering faith and make sure you interrupt those limiting patterns then you will succeed!
For those of you that are trying to change someone......remember that the quickest way to do this is by changing yourself first, set the good example..........and use this process and then show them how to do it.
Remember repitition is the mother of habit.......
Well let me give you the clear and simple 6 step process that you need to follow in order to achieve your goals........This process is brought to you by the king of motivation....Anthony Robbins.....if none of you have heard of him then look him up on google and start reading and listening to some of his books......he is amazing. His simple 6 step process is this:
Step 1: Decide on what you really want and what is preventing you from having it now
Step 2: Get Leverage – Associate massive pain to not changing your limiting belief/habit that is preventing you from having what you want. Create massive pleasure to taking the action needed to change
Step 3: Interrupt the limiting pattern/habit – Remember ‘If you do what you’ve always done you will get what you’ve always got’
Step 4: Create a new empowering belief/habit that moves you towards your goal
Step 5: Condition the new pattern until its consistent – Schedule in time for reinforcement sessions e.g. Affirmations, Mantras and Meditation in the morning
Step 6: Test it – Imagine yourself doing the old limiting habit/belief and then think about what you have replaced that with. Rehearse in your mind what you would do i.e instead of laying in bed, get up and go to the gym.
Believe me that if you stick to this process with unwavering faith and make sure you interrupt those limiting patterns then you will succeed!
For those of you that are trying to change someone......remember that the quickest way to do this is by changing yourself first, set the good example..........and use this process and then show them how to do it.
Remember repitition is the mother of habit.......
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